Various events in life can attack the self-esteem of an individual. It is how we see ourselves…or is it how we think others see us? This internal struggle usually begins in the teenage years, but it can also be affected by early traumas in childhood.
Many teenage girls struggle with self-esteem. How many times have you heard these examples, “I look terrible in this outfit”, “I hate how I look”, “I am so stupid”, “I am just fat”, “I don’t deserve any better”, “I don’t fit in”, and “I am just weird”? These comments are like broken recordings inside many minds. Over the years of listening to these ideas, people begin to believe them. This negative self-talk plays directly into how people eventually begin to see themselves. How many of you have ever said to yourself, “This is what I get for not making the right decision?” If you have said this to yourself for some time or find that you are not sure who you really are today, maybe it is time for your to take a closer look at your life and figure out where this negative self-talk is coming from. This kind of language is limiting your future accomplishments.
So how do you know if your self-esteem is playing a part in your ability to have a happy successful life? This is the mystery behind self-esteem. It plays such a big part in how we function in our daily lives. Self-esteem plays a part in our ability to make difficult decisions. It also plays a part in if we can even have a difficult discussion with our spouse. Self-esteem also plays a part in people’s ability to not let others mistreat them. It plays a part in what we do for a living or the career we choose. It plays a part in what we wear, and how we see others. Self-esteem also plays a part in what kind of partner we choose in our lives. So, as you can see, self-esteem plays a huge part in how our world evolves and takes shape.
If you would like additional information on how self-esteem may be playing a part in your anxiety, depression, marriage, or work relationships, please contact us at Safe Place Healing.